Bill Mounce has written a bitting yet truthful post about the sins of gossip, slander, and a critical spirit.
And then the time comes; they graduate, and move to their first pastorate. He lasted about four years, and when he and his wife couldn't take it any longer, he resigned and is going into some other area of work, and the church is robbed of a bright and passionate young man who deeply loves the Lord and wants to serve the people.
And what was the cause of this man's and woman's loss of a dream?Gossip.
They just couldn't take it any longer. The slander. The criticism. The backbiting. He concluded that the only people who can make it in the church must have thick skin. Gossip is surely the native tongue of the church. Read the whole article.This problem is prevalent everywhere. It runs rampant in the workplace. We just don't take these sins seriously, if we consider them sins at all. These actions are so easily justified.
"I'm not gossiping or complaining, I'm simply stating the truth."
The problem is that we like to state that "truth" over and over again to anyone who will listen. We aren't confronting someone who is error, we are slandering them behind their back. We aren't discussing towards a solution, we are rehashing our displeasure for the sake of expressing our angst. These reasons are selfish and sinful, not loving or edifying.
Just think how this would affect our relationships and attitudes if this behavior would stop. If negativity didn't taint our every conversation and we encouraged one another rather than tearing down.
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.
(Ephesians 4:29 ESV)
Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
(Ephesians 4:31-32 ESV)
A prayer for help.
Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart
be acceptable in your sight
O LORD, my rock and my redeemer.(Psalm 19:14 ESV)